tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1871234243944023172.post5808349973168988666..comments2016-10-05T15:26:50.830-04:00Comments on Back to the Mat: So what I really need is a few more hours in the day. And time off. But mostly yoga. Catherinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17261449180786045271noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1871234243944023172.post-40555286862406951172012-10-08T15:06:58.190-04:002012-10-08T15:06:58.190-04:00Thank you for posting this. The things you list ar...Thank you for posting this. The things you list are most certainly NOT silly excuses for feeling down. At least not to me, since I can closely relate to 90% of what you wrote about, work, commute, feeling stuck, weekends not really being "free time" but rather barely rehabilitation from the week, no time for yoga which was the only thing holding it all together before.<br /><br />I do not have any advice, but I will keep you in my thoughts and hope hope hope that you soon find a way out of being stuck. Your post has made me feel less alone. I too am trying to find my way out. There is definitely hope, but I also know it will probably not change for 6-12 months for me.<br /><br />All the best!Simmmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04664603960187285265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1871234243944023172.post-90755791214061027592012-10-05T19:54:44.196-04:002012-10-05T19:54:44.196-04:00You and I have very different definitions of a lon...You and I have very different definitions of a long blog post. This was not long. Not at all. <br /><br />I am so sorry that you're having a hard time, and that you've been having a hard time for as long as you've been at this job. (Which is a long-ass time.) What I'm reading here is that you are burned the fuck out mostly because of this job, and that's not good at all. I don't read any of this as excuses or whining. It looks like life is grinding you down. That's not trivial. <br /><br />I'm so surprised and saddened that you haven't been able to find a way to make train time work for you. That is majorly horrible. I wouldn't do a non-restorative long commute again for all the tea in China. <br /><br />Remember what Sugar said - that you are only <a href="http://therumpus.net/2011/12/dear-sugar-the-rumpus-advice-column-91-a-big-life/" rel="nofollow">defined by your debt</a> if you choose to be. I thought when I read that column for the first time that this was all well and good in hindsight but was bullshit when you are facing down monthly bills. I don't believe that anymore. Think hard about this: about the excuses you're making when you look at the pile of money you owe. Think <i>hard</i>. Don't just automatically listen to the self that tells you the debt is the master. Think harder than that. Take it from someone with [much] more debt than her yearly salary. <br /><br />Is B looking for jobs on the other coast? I don't think that would be a crazy thing to do, nor do I think it would be a step down for you in terms of lifestyle, let's say. <br /><br />And remember what YOU told ME a year ago: it all works out. Sometimes, even when you're panicking and crazified and running in little fear circles, something else steps in and life works out. <br /><br />I am your friend and you are loved. Katharine Coldironhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10710500266239699918noreply@blogger.com